Warning: Please read Part 1 first!
Interracial dating leads to interracial marriage and eventually interracial/mixed children. I’m not speaking ill of children that are born to parents of two different races only giving my views as to why problems tend to arrise.
Parents of interracial children (specifically Black/white and Black/hispanic) don’t know how to act properly when it comes to their children.
I swear it becomes as if their children are so much more handsome/prettier than children who are only of one (direct) race. Seems as if folks are so quick to point out that “Oh, your child has such beautiful eyes (as long as they aren’t brown) or they have such “good hair” and that alone is a bunch of bull. Honey or fair complexion is always “better” than chocolate or tar color skin. Black babies seem to come far and few in between but Black man or Black woman that loves those of other races are quick to pop out some “cute” little children who won’t want to identify with Black when they are older.
Too often I see little mixed boys who’s parents refuse to cut his long curly hair because it’s so cute and looks good in a pony tail or braided. Black baby with not so curly hair, maybe even kinky, a fade is something that’s a big event on their first birthday. Why is that? Because men cut their hair in the Black community. Or at least they used to. Maybe they are getting a little to feminine now a days. To each his own, but truly I get tired of hearing folks say “we’re not going to cut his hair”, but if their child was a Black baby they wouldn’t think twice about seeing a barber at 12mos of age. I’m baffled.
And then it seems as if they choose to raise their children with the mentality that they are too good to be Black. But never mentioning the fact that they aren’t going to be fully accepted in their other culture. Whether we want to believe it or not, you are only expected to check ONE box on your applications or whatnot. Everyone wants to be Black AND…but truly folks only see you AS Black. But no one wants to be Black anymore. Yet at the same time it is what everyone wants to be.
Look at popular culture. What is Black? What everyone want to be. Temporarily.
When people in interracial relationships have offspring it’s as if they’ve got this child whom is torn between to cultures, and so they try to feed them false ideologies about this world in order to make up for what they are not. Fully Black or fully any other race. I have a nephew who is Black/Hispanic and I love him to death. But I for the life of me and troubled as to why they won’t cut his long wild hair. I know his father (who is a twin) both he and his brother (haha my brother as well) had their hair cut at age one. Minute I know but I’m just saying.
I often hear “oh his eyes are so darling” usually coming from a white lady in passing. And I’m thinking why doesn’t my fully Black godson get the same response? Brown is BEAUTIFUL and Black is gorgeous. But it seems as if green/blue/gray/hazel eyes overrule the traditional hue of Black babies eye color. That later on poses a problem in life.
You have these beautiful Black boys and girls dying to be anything but their chocolate skin tone and have any eye color besides brown. Check the sales on color contacts..
Every music video you see, do they have dark brown women as their dancers or main love interest? Probably not. Yet some fair skin woman with light color eyes and a certain complexion.
That penetrates into the minds of our beautiful Black children. They want the longer hair the brighter skin color and everything else that the Black race doesn’t naturally produce. And then white folks come through and accept them better, and so therefore they think it’s better to be anything but themselves.
All blame placed on mixed race children? No. Their parents? No. But some of it does. Interracial dating does not produce Black children. It’s like it’s a dying breed. No one wants a Black child, unless we can get newborn contacts so Adian can have green eyes.
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lol! i have a bit of time so i will be the first to post my thoughts on this one.
i might have been a bit naive despite dating only black women ( since my teens ) but I realy didn’t know black women’s hair were like ours , from my mother to the women i am dating they all have straightend her, i just don’t pay attention to how they manage them really . my dad’s younger sister clued me in last year after the dumb question just popped out of my mouth , this brings me to my next point about the mixies, my dad’s younger sister has 3 of them with her white husband one of which has them long and blond and has blue eyes. we were sitting in the bus wit her 6 year old son when a former classmate of hers came over with her own child ( who also happened to be mixed) .They started talking about the kids’ good hair and how much it is like daddy’s despite her being dark and yada yada, then the other woman said her daughter was a bit darker because of the hot summer . Until we got home that was the only thign they were talking about. I heard it all ( even with my ipod on)
I have questionned her about this but since her husband follows her footsteps like a shadow i hardly have any thoughtful conversation regarding this issue without being accused of either beign too “afrocentric” or “blowing things out of proportion” .
I do not harbour any hate for mix-race babies, they are beautiful to me like brown babies but i am not this dumb i know that both black and white make sure they get more love over the average black child.Guilty by assocation and if a few people don’t this do this the majroity always will.
The truth has never been typed up so well. I have nothing to add except that I of course agree.
Wel…”100%” black people obsess over color and “good hair” without the discussing bi-racial and multi-racial offspring. I still think you’re basing your dislike of IR relationships out of personal prejudices. Who cares if these women with bi-racial children talk about color and hair? For the most part, us mixed folks have to deal with BS from “pure” black folks because the “pure” ones are so apt, just based on appearances, to think we think we’re “better” than them. Your rants are just as dividing as discussing hair and skin color and really reek of injured pride. This world is fucked up when it comes to race and ethnicity, but nursing grudges against it doesn’t change a thing.
I do hope blacks and whites are a dying breed. Once we all mix together, will it really matter? Will more attention be placed one one skin tone, one eye shape, one hair texture? I do think interracial children are gorgeous because of what they represent: overcoming racism, obstacles, etc. Love is love. Marriage should come from attraction, respect, and adoration–not skin color.
My Background: I came from a large white family who wanted more children because they loved them. So for a while, in the 70’s, my parents did foster car as well.
My mom had one baby, Kevin, African-American who she raised from 2 days to 18 months. Kevin got more positive attention than any baby I ever knew from anyone passing by. His eyelashes. His gorgeous curls. His gummy smile. He was gorgeous and fully black and we loved him. Why did he leave us? My parents tried to adopt him and the Black Social Workers Union had lobbied heavily against white people adopting black babies in the Bay Area. As soon as we tried to adopt him, he was taken from our home. To this day, there is a hole in my mother’s heart and my heart for Kevin. He was my brother. He left us when I was five years old.
I’m sorry to say, but your post really hurt my heart. Interracial relationships are a sign of progress in our culture. I thought we had got beyond this fear of interacial mix–whether by blood or adoption..
To Moumi: I obsess how dark my daughter gets in the summer sun–and we are white. Maybe what you overheard was really one mom just obsessing? Moms can do that for hours about poop, eating habits, anything really.
scouts.
mixed kids are fine in the same grade as their black brethren if you have ever done any work , keeping the balance equal ( and i swear it you will spend much more time monitoring your preferences for either of the kids and those that are mirrored by the society , plus those you can actually manage yourself for convenience and their reasons . I am not “nit-picking” .I don’t know many whites that have so much work except the classic ” i prefer my first kid over my seond” which of course we ALL do.
I have absolutely no problem with IR relationship, i don’t judge them . I do understand where you come from i don’t mean to suggest that you were doing a charity work but trust me there is a big difference between adopting a black child and actually have one, which white women do when they mate with blacks males. THAT one will never leave and you will have to cut your arm if neccessary to keep him.
But please I know you loved this child but don’t be telling me that you cared more about his full blackness that we do.On the same not comparing summer tan ( temporary one at that ) with blackness is a pure mocquery . I know you didn’t mean it that way but …
No, I never meant to suggest a tan is the same as skin color. I meant to say moms obsess about anything. Food patterns, sleep patterns, anything. In my case, I obsess on how dark my daughter’s skin is because I am so pale and freckled and skin cancer runs in the family. I was suggesting the two moms on the bus may have ben doing just that. Just a thought.
I did not understand what you were saying in the first paragraph, and really I don’t know what you mean about caring “for his full blackness.” All I know is that I loved that boy with all my heart. I still consider him a brother and I hope one day he comes back to visit. My parents had 26 kids placed in our home over 6 years–almost all were minorities and all had been abused. Over a dozen have come back, reaching adulthood, to thank my mother and father for they love they felt while there. Some say she was the only person they consider to be a mother and we were the only family they had. So, no, I didn’t care if my brother was black. All I cared was about him as a human being in a way only a 5 year does–without prejudice–and I don’t think it mattered whether my mother bore kevin or just raised him for his two first year,s; she was the only mother he knew. It ripped her heart out. She would have cut off an arm to keep him.
Finally, you are right that I haven’t bore an IR child myself, but I am friends with many. They all seem happy, well-adjusted. Some look black, others mixed, and others white. They seem to have pride in both heritages. I think it puts a burden on the parents to really work on that, but it can be done and should be done. Just my two cents.
“And then it seems as if they choose to raise their children with the mentality that they are too good to be Black. But never mentioning the fact that they aren’t going to be fully accepted in their other culture. Whether we want to believe it or not, you are only expected to check ONE box on your applications or whatnot. Everyone wants to be Black AND…but truly folks only see you AS Black. But no one wants to be Black anymore. Yet at the same time it is what everyone wants to be.”
Hmmm…two different concepts going on here, child-rearing and community acceptance and government putting you in a box. Just cuz the government puts someone in a box, why should a culture of people? Who are these children NOT going to be accepted by? Marking a box is not “acceptance” in the full sense of the word and while the requirement is to mark only one box, required by the government, why are they not accepted in their culture? Do you condone this non-acceptance? Agree with it? If so then don’t you become part of the problem rather than a solution? And if they are not accepted fully in their culture that is a problem of that culture and the people within it isn’t it? How to change it? Isn’t that a better question? Whether it be the black, white or hispanic culture. Any culture actually. I personally do not understand someone NOT accepting a child no matter their cultural background, or any adult for that matter, why stop at children. Who cares what color you or anyone else is, you should be accepted for your values, character and heart above all else. (I know, but one can hope right?)
Scout’s how in the world does interracial children show the progress of ending racism? That has to be the most idiotic line I have ever read online. People get with other people for all kinds of reasons other than love. Examples would be, one type of woman is better than another usually for superficial and shallow reasons. The problem is, anyone can sleep with someone but that does not mean racism will end. It does not mean every culture is accepting of another just because cultures world wide seem to mix with others. It just is not so, and thinking that biracial children will somehow stop hatred of a person’s skin is very naive in and of itself.
What will end racism is when adults, NOT biracial children, own up to their own mistakes and mistreatment of others. Racism will end when EVERYONE can talk about race relations together in a pc free comfortable setting. Racism will end when people have to search for stereotypes because there will be none used. Racism to be eradicated is something that takes hard work contributed by young and old adults alike. Children do not care about color as they play together, but when they get older they learn from certain individuals who hold negative views of certain people. You can raise your children to be color-blind and all that crap, but that only sets your child up for failure. Which is why I shake my head often when parents who cry “Well I taught johnny not to see color, but some kid at his school called him a honky”, yet they don’t understand that they should have warned their children about kids and adults like that. I know my parents taught me at an early age what the word nigger was, and that some white people would call me that word whether I was nice to them or not. They never sugarcoated anything, or told me fairy tales to make me feel good. They let me know that as a black girl I had two strikes against me. Being black and female. They also let me know that america ( it is indeed a great place to reach for certain goals) could indeed be cruel to people from certain ethnic groups. My parents also taught me to not hate anyone, but to understand those who are against me. Maybe if everyones history in america was taught equally and not sugarcoated with feel good lies, we wouldn’t have people so dumb-founded when someone discriminates against them or calls them a racial slur. If I had children I would do the same for them. Sure color, class, and gender should not matter but in america it does and it always will. Also, to want to see all white and black people disappear makes me sad, because I like the fact that I am different from white people by culture and appearance. I like that they are different from me. I like that asians are different from me too. I like variety, and the many cultures and physical appearances of many groups of people makes this world interesting. To want to see that gone, makes me wonder about people like you Scout’s. It really does. Lets say the whole world was one color, there would still be some discriminating against those who are too tall, short, unattractive, smart, or even with much or little to no hair. Problems end when people change themselves by putting in effort, not by hoping the world ends up as one color which is just stupid.
You don’t have to agree, and I’m pretty sure you will probably answer back with you don’t see color, racism is dead, culture does not matter, as well as other nonsense. I would expect as much from people like you Scout’s. It seems the over sensitive cannot process information too well, because they always debate with emotions and not logic.
“When people in interracial relationships have offspring it’s as if they’ve got this child whom is torn between to cultures, and so they try to feed them false ideologies about this world in order to make up for what they are not. ”
Wow, harsh much? I agree with Scouts that IR relationships *do* demonstrate that it is getting more acceptable. I am both aunt and mother to biracial children (black/white nephew and Latino/white son). We emphasize both cultures and try to show both the beauty AND the horrors that lie in everyone’s cultural history. I’m not certain why you assume that everyone is teaching their children that they are “better” just because they have a little white in them. Sorry that the people you have come in contact with seem to think it’s okay to say out loud that the lighter-skinned kids are cuter. That’s just wrong! Maybe I can’t really know, but coming from another country/culture myself, I know that you can have pride in your heritage and be part of a certain group without looking like the standard in that country/culture. Times are changing and people are just going to mix more and more so we need to stop trying to peg people and start realizing that there are so many diverse parts of a person that are worth appreciating.
Angela,
First, it nice to have a spirited conversation, but I think this will be my last post because name calling is just not cool. “Naive, idiotic, etc.” Having a real conversation , a real dialogue, doesn’t require these words. I respect your opinion and it would be nice if you respected I had one that is different. That’s what is so great about the blogosphere–hearing other opinions.
That said, I never said I want to obliterate cultures. It just would be nice if they were shared enough that it was no longer an issue.
It’s like the gay community. They used to be so reviled. So feared and hated. Then, when they all started coming out, people realized they inexorably were related to, friends with, or in business with someone who is gay. The hatred stops when you realize your loved one or friend is one. That doesn’t mean that everyone is gay, just that there is another reason out there to give pause to the hate.
The same holds true with bi-racial children. I would hope you couldn’t be racist against an innocent child that is your blood–whether they be of your race or not. I hope soon we are surrounded by these children and biracial relationships so they become common place, the norm. Does this mean I want all races to be obliterated? No, of course not. Just that it shouldn’t make you stop or give pause before dating or marrying someone who you are attracted to or love. It really shouldn’t make a difference what color the person you love’s skin is. In actuality, it’s these bi-racial families and children who can be the mayors of change if we let them.
I agree about having a pc free enviroment and I agree that it needs to start with adults. However, I believe we as Americans get better and better with each generation. But it takes adults also to let go of pre-conceived notions of what other should do about dating and marriage.
Finally, I see bi-racial children as progress because it used to be outlawed to do so. Year s after those laws were off the books, it was still taboo. It’s just taken the last few decades for that taboo to be lifted. We are now finally opening our eyes that a person is a person. Bi-racial children and blended families can bridge the gap which will make people open their eyes to the humanity and worth of every race.
The fact that there are still so many people out there who are against mixed-race couples saddens me greatly. Usually when we think of racism, thoughts of slavery, anti-Semitism and the abuse of American Indians come to mind. However, there is just as much of a racist attitude involved with people who believe that, while there is no superiority involved in the races, they should not intermingle, make vows before God and men, marry, and have children. I am thankfully that our country officially rejected this philosophy when it abolished the Jim Crow laws in the South. However, I am deeply sadden by individuals, including some whom profess to hold Christ-like values, maintain this attitude of bigotry. These comments reflect a racist mind.
The problems that people have with interracial relationships are in no way biblically justifiable. One of the most widely quoted objections to interracial marriage is found in Deuteronomy 7. In this chapter, God lays down the law for Moses. When talking about the Promised Land, God lists all of the groups who live there (the Hittites, Amorites, Canaanites, and so on) and says that the Israelites are not to marry any of them.
“Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the Lord’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you (vv.3-4, NIV).”
Let’s take note. God did not say, “Do not intermarry with them because their shade of melanin differs from yours.” He said not to marry them because they worshipped other gods. The Lord was protecting the Israelites from false religions, not different races. This passage is specifically talking about marrying people who did not serve Yahweh.
There are quite a few examples of intermarrying in the Bible. In Numbers 12, Moses, himself, married a woman from Cush, which is modern-day Ethiopia. Aaron and Miriam, Moses’ brother and sister, didn’t approve of the marriage, and because of their complaints God struck Miriam with leprosy (she changed her mind about the situation pretty quickly). Ruth, who is named in the lineage of Jesus, was a Moabitess, not an Israelite (Ruth 1). Rahab was a prostitute and a Canaanite, and she was also named in Jesus’ lineage and mentioned as a great woman of faith in the book of Hebrews (Joshua 2, Matthew 1, and Hebrews 11). Both of these women recognized the Lord as the one true God, and he used their bloodlines to bring Jesus into the world.
The sins that often entangle Christians who oppose interracial relationships are pride and worry.
Although there aren’t Bible verses forbidding interracial relationships, there are verses declaring our equality and unity in Christ. One of the most obvious is Galatians 3:28, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
If people genuinely have a Christian worldview, there is no justification for racial discrimination of any kind. Christianity claims that all humans have descended from Adam and Eve, the first two people. “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27). Catch that? All humans have been created in the image of God. All of them. If we have all been created in God’s image, if He knits each of us together in the womb, if we are all human beings, then there is no justification for resisting interracial unions.
Are interracial relationships more difficult? Are there more challenges to overcome when people from different cultures get married? Will these mixed-race couples face prejudice from others? First of all, I know lots of people who have never faced extreme problems. Second, who cares?! God is STILL in control and if the person God has prepared for you happens to be of another race or culture to God be the GLORY.
Check out the black baby with blue eyes and both of his parents are black at
black boy
Also check out http://www.halfblack.com
I’ve seen that and he looks so strange. It is definitely not something you see everyday. There is also a picture of a young black girl with light blue eyes on the internet somewhere, I totally forget where. While beautiful indeed, it still freaks me out.
Also, I will never understand why people will have an issue with black americans creating websites soley for them, but when biracial people do it there is no problem. I will probably never understand.
Parents of interracial children (specifically Black/white and Black/Hispanic) don’t know how to act properly when it comes to their children.
I treat my son with love and respect, I educate him in reading and take him swimming, and we do a lot together. His mum an African speaks to him in her on language as well as English. I can not speak it, but I am glad he is learning it. She teaches him also about love and education. So I think he will grow up very balanced and lucky to have two people who adore him.
As for the issues of society we will each teach him out our own knowledge, but I believe in critical thinking so I would expect him to find his own path.
I guess what you are really saying is that I don’t know how to teach him or socialize him into my culture or hers as we are so different. Your question therefore is one of epistemologies and ontological realities which I would strongly argue lie not in the biological constructions, but in the social semiotics attached to the effects of a minor genetic effect that gives people, the differences of skin.
Well there is a huge problem with the way in which you define the words ‘black person’ as if this concept is fixed across time, space, age and geography, as if the essences of a black person is somehow in there skin. ‘Being black’ is a socially defined process as is all process in our world. Look at how many black people in this world, and then define them as all acting a specific way, is completely ludicrous, at a very meta-level a black African is different to a Jamaican or an Australian Aboriginal (or are they not black enough). Even on a more micro-level of analysis. A young black African to an older will be different in so many ways then a black person from 400 hundred years ago. What I am trying to get at, is that it is really a waste of time to refer to black people as if the term has a fixed meaning, race is not biological condition in the way you seem to want to define it
Again ‘race’ is not a term without problems, this might be a bit of a shocker to you but most black people are genetically closer to whites than other black people. I am not just talking about light or dark skin color. The specific genes that make up a black person from a white are so small in the human build that they are not even the majority, not even close, so small in fact that its not worth talking about, yet we do. This to me is a question of phenomenology. I don’t have the research papers with me (well I do am just too busy to get them out).
I am getting tried here but not so long ago and even until now a new drug was released and aimed at specifically black people. But even the drug company could not come up with a ‘black biological model’ that they could point to and say this is a black individual, unless they kept it to social construct model, which for a drug company is very bad.
Furthermore the illness which the drug was used for is a generally a black issue, but again it was found that it was not the black genetics that was the problem, it was the fact that this illness was carried on a specific mosques and in a area where it was mostly black people lived and over time, it became to be seen as a black condition. So please can you stop going on about ‘race’ stop trying to put hatred into my sons heart and stop trying to put a dived between me and my son, because frankly he is the centre of my world and I love him with a force, that you or anyone else could not break.
So my son is being socialized to think that people can love each other, even if they are not the same race.
You know what I like you because in many ways at least you have the courage to say what you mean and to stand by it and that I can respect. Even if what you are saying seems totally illogical. If you can for a moment stop thinking of me as being a white individual and just another person on this earth. Then I would love to set you up with some reading and then see what you think, and in turn I would read anything you recommend as Kant would argue ‘dare to know’
Much love
Anthony x
BABYGURL YOU NEED SOME MORE LIFE EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE. DONT GET ME WRONG ITS A BEAUTIFUL THING TO BE BLACK AND I’M APPRECIATIVE OF THAT BIT ITS NOT EVEN ABOUT BEING BLACK IN THE LONG RUN. THE PEOPLE WHO WANT TO DIVIDE THIS COUNTRY AND KEEP US ALL DOWN IMPLANT THESE THINGS INTO PEOPLES MIND SO EVERYBODY DOES NOT FOCUS ON REAL PROBLEMS EVERY SINGLE HUMAN SHOULD HAVE HIS OR HER OWN CHOICE AND NOT BE RIDICULED FOR THAT CHOICE NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. THAT MEANS YOU TOO AND I RESPECT THAT/
THERE IS ENOUGH PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD FOR ANYBODY TO FIND WHAT OR WHO THEY ARE LOOKING FOR. THERE ARE ENOUGH PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD FOR ANYBODY TO BE WITH WHO THEY WANT AND TO HAVE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN NO MATTER WHAT SHADE THEY ARE, NO MATTER HOW THERE HAIR GROWS WE ARE ALL FROM THE SAME. THE SAME
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Thank you so much Anthony for that comment. I stumbled across this by accident and was becoming very annoyed with some of the views expressed here. I am a white female with four multiracial children (by the way, that is the box they can check on government forms in my state…maybe yours hasn’t caught up yet) and I totally agree with what you are saying. If you asked one of my children today “What are you, black or white?” (and they’ve been asked). They would reply “I’m a beautiful blend of both”. My children learn about the heritage –the good, the bad, and the ugly– of both races. Also, they learn about they’re Native American heritage coming from my Grandfather. How dare it be implied that “mixies” , and by the way I hate that term. I would not call someone darkie or wish to be called whitie for that matter…As I was saying, how dare you imply that mixed couples don’t teach they’re children about the heritage of both races and about how the world really works. I guess that means that if you had a multiracial child you would be incapable as well. Generalizations have never been something I’m fond of and making them makes you sound ignorant. And by the way, I was married to their father for 10 years and our children were born out of love. We still love each other to this day. ALL people sometimes get with another person for status reasons or whatever that crap that was said was. But that ’s just another generalization that made someone on this page look stupid. And my kids are beautiful because they are the FUTURE not because they have “good hair” and a “caramel complexion”.
Okay well I have to say I’m 17 and I’m doing a report for English on Interracial Dating and I came upon your blog. I have to say ARE YOU SERIOUS???? For as long as i can remember
my mother told me never to date a black man it makes all the black women jealous and you know what i think she is right. I’m a junior and i go to Howe Academy( IPS) Indianapolis Public School! I have grown up with nothing but black people anid I’m white i have never dated a white man only black. We dont date them because they are yours but because they respect us they. & we respect them my bestfriend Toni(like my sister) Is dating an amazing white man he is wonderful to her and she loves him. It doesnt matter bout the color of the eyes the skin or even the hair its the love they have and i abousoulty think mixed babies are the cutest thing ever rather if there are black/white or white/mexican there is not much to do about each race has a group of b****** that are ugly as can be but that is there problem get over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHEN U EXPLAIN MIXED CULTURE U MAKE IT SOUND NEGATIVE, ARE U MIXED YOURSELF? I AM, I AM MEXICAN/WHITE AND I HAVE A SON BY A BLACK MAN. GROWING UP W/ MY MOM BEING WHITE AND FATHER MEXICAN, I HAD THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS. MY MOM BEING REALLY WAS’NT MUCH TRADITION ANYBODY ISNT USE TO.BEING MEXICAN,LEARNING SPANISH AND HITTING THE PINATA ON MY B-DAY.YES…DIFFERENT CULTURES AND DIFFERENT TRADITIONS BUT MY FAMILY BALANCED IT OUT FINE.I DONT THINK THAT MY MOM’S FAMILY SAW ME ANY DIFFERENT BECAUSE I WAS A LITTLE DARKER.AND WHEN I FILL OUT APPLICATIONS I DO CHECK MORE THEN ONE BOX, I CHECK WHITE AND HISPANIC, AND MY SON WILL CHECK THREE.AND I SEE NO PROBLEM WITH IT. IT IS 2008 AND 50 YEARS AGO U MAY HAVE HAD A POINT,AS OF NOW U JUST SOUND RACIST.SPECIALLY WHEN YOU SAY BI-RAICIAL CHILDREN ARE PRETTIER OR THINK THEY ARE, I AM PRETTY AND MY SON IS A CUTIE.AT THE SAME TIME I HAVE A BEST FRIEND WHO IS BLACK BLOODLINE 3 GENERATIONS BACK FULL BLOODED BLACK AND SHE HAS GREEN EYES.SO I DONT KNOW IF YOUR RACIST OR JELOUS,I JUST THINK U SHOULD DO MORE RESEARCH.
Ignorant. Only GOD can change the hate in your heart.
YOU ARE GOING TO HELL YOU RACIST MOTHER FUCKER!
to say what you say means you have to actually know what you are talking about, and if you have never been in an interracial couple then how can you say you know why races mix? I personally have liked people of many different races. And no matter what way you look at it …you say acceptance from the “other race” their is no other race just humans seeing other humans. I am only 17 years old and am ashamed that people can’t see only one race; human!
1. I dont look for acceptance only friends that adore me for me; wether black, white, Indian, etc.
2. who says blacks accept blacks? my friend has 2 black parents but are is only a little darker then i am and i am tan lol he gets teased by his friends saying are you sure u werent adopted and yes his friends were black but darker blacks
3.Racial discrimination will always be there if people from all different races think it is somehow wrong
4. because of people like you( all races count!) making idiotic remarks the guy i liked ( yes he was white and im multiethnic!) shyed away from us becoming a couple! If ALL sides accepted interraccial couples then we would have less issues and maybe you would haev already fallen in love and married a wonderful man that is or is not your race. All that matters is you love the personally whole heartedly, in the end that is all you can wish for.
5. I HOPE THAT YOU WILL NOT JUST SETTLE FOR THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE AND TRULY FOLLOW YOUR HEART WHEREVER IT LEADS YOU!
To the original author…
I agree that black is beautiful. I also agree that many black people do seem to suffer from low self-esteem because their blackness is not appreciated, often by those of their own race.
However, you made a lot of generalizations. You cannot speak for all black people. Nor can you speak for those of us who are biracial or multiracial. The problem is not interracial dating. Look within and ask yourself why you feel this way. You cannot change the views of others. But you CAN change your own attitude about this.
Black children are beautiful. That is why you should do your part to instill positive reinforcements in children of a darker hue. Don’t be upset by the fact that some people do not compliment a dark-skinned child as openly as they would his lighter counterpart. Some people simply believe that lighter is better. You cannot change another person’s thinking. All you can do is make sure that the darker children know that they are loved, worthy, and special in their own way.
I was never accepted by most black people so your notions about that are pretty laughable. I’ve been subjected to some of the most hurtful, damaging treatment by other minorities because of the extreme whiteness of my skin. In my world black people will only really accept you if you downplay the other side of your heritage and identify mostly with them. There is little room to be who you really are because you wil be ridiculed and condemned.
Just think about it.
im 15 an i live in london
im from a mixed back ground but mainly black my dad has scottish nd chinesse in him
and is quite light and my mum is black
ive got hayzel eyes and my family has brown
i think that some ppl obsess over hayzel eyes or green etc because its not really common
and it is special
and also i have so many friends that are mixed i dont even realise
bt there is stil alot of racism involved with mixed children my friends are called “mongrels” “half breed” this that and the other and i think it is unfair
there are alot of mixd couples nowadays and i think they should be allowed to be with each other no matter there back ground
x
JUST SHUTUP…
Wait, let me get this straight. You do not want black and white couples to mix because mixed children will not suffer the same amount of racism that “real” black children suffer? Because this is “unfair” to black children that mixed children are admired by whites? That is seriously messed up. You are using racism as a justification to discriminate. Worse, you are using racism as a justification to keep society from moving ahead to a point that race does not matter
Wow this was an interesting blog posting. Let me start off by saying I’m a 32 year old black male from Canada (which I think gives me an outside looking in perspective on the American culture), I have a half brother who is mixed. While racism exists around the world, there doesn’t seem to be as much outward racism where I live. Interracial couples are a beautiful thing for the most part up here.
I’m not going to try and change your mind, but I do want to say a few things.
First it seems overly angry, are you currently in a relationship?
Secondly the percent of interracial couples is so small it’s almost silly to have this conversation now…lets wait another 50 years!
I know my mother is black I know my grandmother is black and I know I’m black. But before I’m black, I’m human. If I connect with another human and love them it shouldn’t matter what race they are. If two people love each other it should be viewed as a positive.
Here’s a quote from you
“All women can come with the prospect of the same B.S that stems across all racial divides that for sure.”
If everyone thought this way we wouldn’t have racism! And if you truly believed this, then this posting wouldn’t have happened. But then you also say;
“…not the same equivalence of what a Black man expects out of a Black woman.”
1. Who are you to state what someone else needs?
2. By adding the word ‘Black’ you’re contradicting your previous quote I put up. Because now you’re saying that certain people have certain needs or act a certain way…which is pretty much the heart of racism.
You could talk to 100 black women about their black husbands and boyfriends, and then talk to 100 white/ Hispanic/ European women about their white/ Hispanic/ European husbands and boyfriends and then ask them to list 5 things they love about them and 5 things that really annoy them about them and you’ll end up with two lists that look very similar.
Point being we’re really all the same! We (guys) all do stupid things that drive women crazy and we (guys) all think you (ladies) talk too much during the game! Ha ha.
But some of us have a preference for a certain look, I like dating tall girls, you know yourself you like a certain look, some guys like fat girls, some girls like a guy with big muscles, some guys (black or white) like white girls, some girls (black or white) like black guys.
Judging from the picture you posted at the top, I’m going to go out on a limb and say if it wasn’t for slavery you wouldn’t have the views you do. You’ve been conditioned to think a certain way growing up by who ever raised you.
Kind of like the red-neck who says racist comments and then blames it on his upbringing. For everyone out there I hope you are not just spewing out what our parents have made us to believe, I hope we make our own decisions with some independence.
Quick questions, is Obama is less of a man for being interracial? Do you consider him the first black president or the first mixed race president? And since he is both black and white, would it matter what colour Mrs. Obama was?
To keep the topic towards what I just read…
I want to start of by saying that I am a young white women and am married to a black man, we have a daughter together whoms skin is lighter than mine yet she has an enormous dark strawberry gold afro, and her daddys big mouth and nose. I agree with one of the comment from blackromancereader. You seem to hold a serious grudge against interracial children! Basically after reading your thoughts, I got the impression that you indeed were all about black pride and that in your eyes mixed children are not good enough! In my personal opinion my daughter is far more beautiful than any black white green or polka dotted child out there, but she is my daughter! Mothers feel that way about there children regardless of what others do! You seem very narrow minded! Because your black brothers cut there hair it makes it wrong for others not to? I have not seen one mixed child without beautiful hair and why would you cut it!? I live with my husbands family, almost all of whom are black given a few of my cousins that are half phillipian and black yet are darker than there black father! You seem to be just like those black girls I see walking through the store or down the street while holding my husbands hand that yell “WHATCHU DOIN WITH THAT WHITE GIRL NIGGGA U NEED TO STICK WITH YOUR RACE!” you think that the white women are taking over your black men! Interracial children is proof that racisism is definitly not as big of a problem as before, but the differance now is that the racism isnt coming as much from the white people, but yet the black women! The ones who walk around talking shit about men that are with white women, and are all about black pride this and that! Personally, I think that you should keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself becasue you obviously have way to much hatred towards whites! Honestly your words made my stomach sick! My child will not have one problem growing up in this world nor will she have a problem with her identity! She is the best of both worlds in my opionion! Best belive I will continue to multiply my “mixed up babies” and I will continue to call them the most beautiful and I wont cut there beautiful hair! I will not hide my childs God given good looks because she wont look like the other black girls or white girls, becasue she is neither! Also on another note, for those located in south west florida, as of 2009 there is a new box to check on the ethnicity, that is MIXED RACE! So no longer does a black/white-black/spanish-white/spanish ect. need to claim one race, it is now acknowledge!
I am a black woman who has 2 interracial children. I also have a son that is not, he is black. Here is the thing. I think that this whole thing bordorlines racism. I say this because the issue should not be about interracial children who are a product of interracial relationships. It should be about educating our children about our culture. My oldest child that is not half black and half white is African American and African. You may feel that that is a totally different thing but really it isn’t. I think this problem is that us who are fully black feel inferior to those who are lighter skinned and that I believe should be blamed on the parents. That isn’t the fault of the people who have these children. I was offended by the comments about the parents of these children teaching their children that white or shall I say lighter skin is better, or that the the white is better then the black. I make it a point to let my children know that they are all beautiful and that they can be anything in life if the work hard for it. At the same time I make sure they know that they are no better and no less then anyone else.
My oldest has problems all the time with people teasing him because he is half African. Guess who are the ones teasing him? It is our own that tease him.
Before I met the man I married who happens to be white. I had never even thought about dating a white man, but I fell in love with him and we had children out of love for one another. Who is anyone to say that it’s wrong.
You can believe my children will know where they came from and they will know that all of their skin is beautiful. That is my job as a parent weather my children are mixed or not.
Very usefull infomation. Thank you.
Keep it up